How To Overcome Nervousness

By Subodh / March 14, 2011

It can happen to anyone. You could plan to apply for a job and think you have all the right words ready. Either that or you may have memorized your speech word for word and still freeze in front of an audience.

What is this all about? It is a type of stage fright that happens to the best of people. It happens to people even though they have dressed their best and feel confident and ready to go.

So what can be done about this? Well, you can find out by reading some of the relaxation techniques presented in the next section.

A Simple Guide

Just remember one very important point first of all. You need to realize that nervousness is just a state of mind. You can become nervous whether or not you have prepared your speech or document ahead of time.

With that in mind, also realize this condition is also referred to as “stage fright” or “performance anxiety”. Oftentimes overcoming this problem is in the mind, and thus requires methods by which you would change your thinking.

This requires the diminishment of negative thoughts by way of various kinds of breathing and relaxation exercises. You can read the varying ways in which you can relax your mind as indicate below:

  • Say positive things to yourself, such as “I can do this” or “I like people and I have nothing to fear” and other phrases. Even if at first you do not believe you can do it you will eventually come to believe that you are worthy and that you can really accomplish anything.
    Remember also the opposite is true. If you think you are going to fail most likely you will fail. However, if you think that you are going to succeed chances are you will succeed.
  • There also is the art of imagination to help you with your stage fright (nervousness). For instance, you can imagine yourself in front of a large crowd and maybe the heads of the people are actually lettuce or they are all in their underwear. This funny scenario seems to really help a person relax.
  • You can do deep breathing exercises. Breathe in….breath out…and keep repeating this several times until you feel calmer. You should do this no matter what kind of personal interaction you are about to have, whether facing a prospective new boss, business client, or school crowd.
  • If you have time before you go on stage, play some soothing music in your ear. Maybe you have a portable iPod or other MP3 device you can use. You might want to try even some soothing relaxation or nature sounds.
  • You could prepare yourself by playing positive, inspirational messages in your ears. Perhaps these messages are coming from a favorite motivational speaker or they are coming from a meditation coach designed to help you reach your full potential.
  • Avoid alcohol, caffeine, or illegal drugs (and illegal drugs are bad for you anyway) before giving a speech. Besides, the alcohol specifically can increase your anxiety once the buzz wears off. Furthermore, the buzz you have while trying to speak can cause you to lose your concentration.

Just remember you can do it. You do not have to be afraid of people. One additional tip would be to get plenty of sleep and eat a good meal before you speak live.

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