If you’ve ever lived with roommates you know that it can be a slippery slope. It can be totally awesome and the two of you could end up becoming great friends, but it can also be a nightmare if your personalities don’t mesh well. Living with someone and sharing personal space is the quickest way to really see someone’s true colors. Some people have little things that bother them, and if you commit one of their pet peeves, you’ll definitely hear about it.
The Note Leavers
How might you hear about it? Well, if there’s some sort of pressing issue, most (normal) roommates will just talk you in person. However, there are those who I like to call. . .dun dun dun. . .The Note Leavers. WTF are note leavers, you ask? Exactly what it sounds like. They’re people who, instead of discussing things with you, just jot down a weird, passive aggressive note and call it a day.
If you’re nodding your head right now, then you know exactly what I’m talking about. Don’t get me wrong, there are a lot of roommates who leave awesome notes like “Hey, I made cookies, help yourself!” but there’s also the kind whose note will read, “These cookies are MINE. If you touch them I’ll murder you.” Yikes! Obviously they’re not serious (we hope), but still, murder on the count of being a cookie monster? Seems a little intense. Threatening notes are worse when you don’t know your roommate very well because then you’re stuck wondering if they’re joking around or if they’re just plain creepy.
How to Deal
If you’re dealing with this kind of roommate, and it bothers you, then you should definitely approach them and talk to them about their annoying little habit. Let them know that you don’t appreciate finding their notes around the house every time they have a problem. It causes tension knowing that someone can scold you in a note, but they don’t have the guts to mention it to your face. Tell them their creepy notes are making you feel uncomfortable because you don’t have time to wonder if you’re going to wake up to your head being shaved, or something crazy like that.
Tension in your own house is the absolute worst feeling. You want to come home and unwind from your busy day, not deal with a bunch of B.S. So, once you have this conversation, the problem at hand should go away because people who live together usually don’t want to step on any toes. At the very least you’ll have peace of mind knowing that your roommate isn’t a creep and, in fact, just has a “unique” personality.
Ashley Welter is a writer for Instant Checkmate, an online service that provides tips to help you deal with bad situations.