How To Get Rid of An Affair

By Subodh / July 14, 2010

Many people have affairs these days for a number of reasons. Some do it for fun, while others do it because they are unhappy in their relationships. No matter which way you look at it, it is still wrong and it is a slap in the face to your partner. Instead of unraveling and turning into a soap opera you can get rid of it as soon as it arises.

Put a label on your relationship

Sometimes people get their signals crossed and assume that they are officially in a relationship with someone while the other person thinks it is an open relationship. Thankfully with marriages the boundaries are pretty clear cut. Always make sure you know what your status is and where you stand with the other person. This ensures that you both know it is wrong to have affairs and would then be grounds for ending the relationship.

Fact or suspicion?

Sometimes you can have a feeling that your partner is having an affair and at other times it is just paranoia. The only way to tell the difference is by getting evidence that will prove your theory. You may want to hire a private investigator, from which you will get video or audio recordings. Incriminating evidence like lipstick stains, another person’s cologne or perfume, and expensive gifts they can’t afford, are often warming signs that there is something afoot. While feelings may not be admissible in court as evidence, if you have been with your partner long enough you will know them well enough to be able to pick up signs that they are being unfaithful.

The choice

If you find out that your partner is indeed having an affair then the ultimate question would be whether they want to be with you or the other person. If you can find it in your heart to take them back then they must make this decision. It may be a while before you start trusting them again.

Move on

It can be hard to let go from a relationship especially when you have given everything to this person. If they have been having an affair it shows you that they don’t love you as they should and they don’t respect the sanctity of your relationship. The best thing to do is to move on and find somebody who will treat you better. There is no reason in the world to put up with a cheating partner.