How To Get Rid Of Feelings for An Ex

By Subodh / July 3, 2010

Breaking up is hard to do and you can’t simply just stop your feelings once the relationship has ended. It is bittersweet to hold onto the memories of a time you were happy together. Something will always be there to remind you of your first date, your first kiss, your romantic song and the special things you used to do together. The good news is there are a number of ways to ensure you get rid of this fast.

Clarity is key

If you are going to break up you can’t just fade from being together to being broken up. There has to be a proper discussion of what is going on. You both have to be clear about what it is that you want and why you want to break up. Be honest and tell each other how you really feel. Ask all the questions you have been too scared to ask. This break up must leave no stone unturned. This will eliminate all those times you wonder “what if” and consider getting back together.

Take your time

You can’t simply go from being in a relationship to being single and carry on as normal. The feelings you have will take time to get rid of. Allow yourself to experience and work through the feelings of pain and sadness. This is the only way you will really get closure and not have unresolved feelings coming back to haunt you later on.

Talk about the next step

When you break up things will be awkward because it takes time to get used to the fact that it is over. You have to sit and discuss what happens next. You can’t just go on pretending or hoping that things will magically work out. Talk about whether you want to still be friends afterwards or not. This is not always easy so make sure that you are sure. Be sure to state that this is over and that there is no chance of you getting back together.

Accept what once was

No matter how a relationship ends you will always have the memories of a happy time. Even if your break up is messy it won’t undo what you have shared in the past. There is nothing wrong with acknowledging that there was a space in time where you were together. This is especially important if you shared a deep love. This relationship will have taught you something and made you a better person in some ways.