Everyone goes through the teenage phase and more often than not it is filled with all sorts of problems. During this phase teens are trying to figure out who they are and where they fit into the world. They try different things and often get into trouble as a result of their impulsiveness. If you are dealing with a troubled teen then there are ways to curb the problem.
Just a phase?
Sure, the teenage years are just a phase in life where self discovery takes place. This view on the teen years has lead to many parents dismissing problems thinking that this phase will only last a few years and not have a lasting impact on their kids. The truth is that whatever happens, good or bad, resonates through their lives forever. You have to be there to ensure your child grows up to be responsible in later life by instilling good morals and values in them.
Some parents don’t communicate with their children because they aren’t sure how to. Most just dismiss their children’s moods as it being a typical teen phase. Without communication you will never really know what’s going on. Make an effort to find out why they are angry all the time, why they say that they hate you and why they are experimenting with drugs. If you find they aren’t comfortable speaking to you, then you can get a third party involved.
Spend quality time together
Your kids are just like any other person in the world. Once you spend more time with them you will get to know them better. This creates the sort of safe relationship where they will feel that they can talk to you without you getting mad at them. This doesn’t mean that you have to act like a teen or feel like one too. This also doesn’t mean treating them like kids. Allow them some freedom to explore and don’t rule with an iron fist. Spending time together doesn’t mean an entire day at the mall together. This could be family dinner, grocery shopping or cooking together.
Ask for help
Your child doesn’t spend on their time at home. The next best place to go is to school. If they are seriously troubled and their behavior has changed talk to their teacher and find out what has happened. You will be surprised at how much they pick up during class.