Throwing a surprise party is a great way to show people how much they mean to you; they will appreciate the time and effort that has been put in to organise the party perfectly and the fact that you’ve managed to keep it a surprise for so long. However, forget the excitement of the actual day for a moment and remember that they’re not easy to pull off so there are a few things you should bear in mind.
First you need to make sure that everyone is as committed to the secret as you are because you don’t want anyone blurting it out accidentally. It’s also important to make sure you’re careful with communications, make sure everyone knows what they’re supposed to be doing, make sure you always know what’s going on and if it goes wrong make sure you have another plan.
- Secrecy is imperative when you’re planning a surprise party because any kind of leak could ruin the entire plan. In order to make sure your party remains a secret you need to avoid chatting about the party everywhere you go, in fact, you need to refrain from talking about it at all. You never know who’s around and saying one thing in the wrong place could bring all of your plans crashing down. If you have to communicate then emails are the safest but if you have to then by phone is acceptable – as long as it’s not to the house of the person you’re surprising.
- When you do have to communicate about the party make sure you only communicate with one person at a time – so don’t send out any group messages – because it’s really easy for you to accidentally add in the wrong person and for replies to get confused. If you only communicate with one person at a time then you can be sure that they know exactly what they’re doing.
- Who you invite is important too, even though it’s you who’s throwing the party remember that you can’t only invite people that you know so you might have to talk to a close family member who you know well in order to help build up the guest list.
- When sending out your invites you need to make sure you tell everyone everything that they need to know so that there’s no danger of them trying to get in touch with the surprisee trying to find out details. Make sure you inform them of the time, place, dress code and the reason for the invite – and make sure you explicitly tell them that it’s a surprise and not to speak to the surprisee about it.
- As the main organiser it’s important for you to know exactly what’s going on at all times so you need to know the plan inside and out just in case someone has to ask you something. If you’re planning the party for someone who’s close to you then you will have to lie and you’ll have to learn to lie really well.
- Finally, although everything should go to plan, there’s always a chance that something will go wrong and if that’s the case then you have to be willing to let it go. If the party has to be abandoned then so be it but you should never tell the recipient because it means you can try it again in future and it could ultimately hurt their feelings.