We, as adults, known the what is kindness and what is morals, but do kids really know? They are abstract concepts of life that a person learns in his/her process of growing up. While it is actually a non-feasible option to teach these concepts by theoretic means, you can always take a step towards guiding them the moral way through activities. The kids learn, in the process, the ways of interacting with others in a kind, compassionate, and empathetic way and discriminate right and wrong.
It is a tough task that requires lots of care and attention. The slightest mistake could mould them into an entirely different dimension. Here are some tips that you could always follow to bring up your kid with good moral code.
The A To Z of Bringing Up a Moral Kids
- Be a role model for your kids
Your actions matter. If you tell your kid that games are more about skills, fun, and exercise and then ask her, who won the match, you are sending the wrong message. You tell her to be honest, but make some adjustments to gift something. You are sending the message that cheating, occasionally, is acceptable. So, be extra careful.
- Lie the foundation for empathy
Empathy is the cornerstone for compassion of all types. Treat them empathetically to learn what empathy means. If you exercise compassion towards others, your kid will also learn.
- Teach your kids about the values you exercise and their importance
We all have different sets of beliefs and values and there is a certain set of importance we attach to each. Let them be aware of those. Answer them the right way when they come back and question you about the essentiality of those values. This will help them imbibe those and follow those.
Support your kids and reinforce the values as the kids express those. You can always use words such “Wow! You gave your toys to that poor kid! Your generosity is worth applauding!” This will inspire them to learn such good things and do more.
- Curb condemning and lecturing
All of us do that. We all feel that kids need to be taught something or the other every moment. We start lecturing and we even go one step ahead by condemning what they did. Alternatively, you can ask them about a particular situation and the reason behind them doing such a thing. This will instill an articulate thinking process in them. She will feel connected to you in a better way because you are listening to her and not just lecturing or criticizing her.
- Make the ideas more relevant to them
Kids will only understand what you are trying to tell them when the topic revolves around them and their lives. Give them examples from their lives. For example, let us say, your 8 year old want to celebrate her birthday and invite a couple of friends, but those friends were let down by another girl of a group… Let her decide… You listen to her… and then help her out. She will realize.
- Instill appreciation for others in the community
The world of kids are quite smaller than ours. So, it is your duty to let her know that the real world is much, much bigger than what she thinks actually is. The best way to develop her morals is to let her appreciate the people who help us, visibly and invisibly, and make our lives smoother. Tell her how you get the milk; who delivers the newspaper; and all such small things with a tone of appreciation.
- Let her start
Your kids needs to start somewhere to explore what she has learned all these days. So, if she wants to give away her books, clothes, and toys to an orphanage, allow her to do so, in an empathetic way. If she wants to clean the park in your apartment with her friends, let her do in a safe, manageable way. These are indicators that she is choosing the right way.
As I mentioned, there is no hard and fast rules that can be laid down to raise a kid with moral values. Kids love experimenting and toying with novel ideas; let them do, but have an eye on them so that they don’t trek off the path.
Guide them; enact your values; let them learn and grow….