Attention deficit disorder, also called ADD, is a condition that affects the learning of a child. If your child has trouble paying attention to people or events around them, is violent or aggressive, or is depressed or anxious he or she may have ADD. ADD children may also show traits of low self-esteem, such as being a bully or the class clown. As a parent you may need to be more patient and understanding if your child has this condition. You can start making things better for your child by following these tips.
In order to start working toward getting rid of attention deficit disorder, you have to first understand the scope of the problem. You have to realize that the condition affects your child mentally, emotionally, and behaviorally. You have to carefully examine your child and your family as a whole to understand fully how the disorder is affecting your child.
Creating Realistic Expectations
Learn the strengths and weaknesses of your child. You have to figure out what behavior constitutes noncompliance and what is a result of inability. This makes it easier to create a discipline strategy. If your child displays a behavior you know them to be able to control, that is noncompliance. However, some behaviors may appear to be controlled but are not. For example, if your child controls his or her movement when they are interested in something, you might easily assume that they are capable of controlling their movement at all times. However, not being able to control movement is a classic symptom of ADD.
Consistency is key in discipline, especially with kids with ADD. By having predictable consequences, your child will be able to learn behaviors much easier. Parenting classes specially designed for parents of kids with attention deficit disorder can greatly help in developing a discipline strategy.
One method that works well with ADD kids is behavioral charting. In this method you track your child’s behaviors with a reward chart, and rewards are given when the chart is completed correctly. This method also makes it clear what you expect of the child.
Teenagers are more difficult to discipline. For teenagers, you should include them on creating your discipline strategy. Ask them what would be a fair consequence for breaking certain rules. This will make them less likely to rebel.
Getting a Professional Team
A professional team of doctors and experts will greatly help you and your child. They will be able to help you determine what behaviors should be disciplined and what a result of their condition is. Your family doctor can examine your child for physical causes or effects of the condition. A psychiatrist will diagnose your child with ADD, and can prescribe medications that assist with symptoms. A psychologist is also necessary to provide your child and family with understanding about the condition, and give the child coping skills in order to better their lives. Finally, an education specialist is needed in the school that will help your child learn in spite of his or her disabilities.