All of us have best friends or family members who will eventually get married. This means, a time will come when you will become the best man or the chosen bridesmaid to deliver the wedding speech. The weird thing about a wedding speech is that there is no middle ground to how effective it can be. You either give an awesome wedding speech or you say something that is as damp as the river bank.
An amazing wedding speech will make you a rock star at the wedding. A dull speech will see you hiding from people who think of you as a boring person and make people wonder if you are simply too dumb to come up with a nice speech or just plain lazy.
Pick An Objective
Before you set out to do some research as to what you want to say in your wedding speech, you need to ask yourself, what mood are you going for? This is like the main objective. Once you choose your objective, at least the direction in which you should walk becomes clear. This speech is a big responsibility because your friend or family member is counting on you making a good impression.
There are several styles of wedding speeches. You could go for comedy and make people laugh. You could opt for something serious, appeal to the elderly folks in the audience. You could also go for some drama and make people cry. You could simply go with something religious, narrate an event that relates to the religion of the couple who are getting married.
You can also mix and match these effects. You could start off with some comedy, lighten up the mood and slowly transition to produce a dramatic effect. You could start off with some nice drama and end it on a religious note. There are a lot of options. Remember to connect these options with your personality. In the run up to the wedding, as the best man or woman for the wedding, you would have interacted with many family members who are involved with the wedding.
If you are the fun sort of person, they are probably expecting a wedding speech that is laced with some comedy. So, go with the impression you normally make on people who meet you.
Once you have decided what kind of speech you want to deliver, you start collecting some necessary information about your friend who is about to get married. You probably already know all there is to know about the bride and groom. Or else, you would not have been chosen to be the best person at the wedding.
There is such a thing called as too much information, if your friend who is getting married is known to you for ages, then your thoughts can get lost in an avalanche of information. If necessary, grab a paper and pen and start jotting down important and relevant information. Some things you should note down are life events like how you met your friend, how did he help you out in times of crisis, what is the coolest part about this friend and some humorous or drama filled events that must have happened between you and your friend.
Such things can become part of the speech opening. You can definitely end at that point or you can proceed by saying how happy you feel about the wedding and why you believe that the couple make for a wonderful pair. To be able to do this, you will need to collect some information from your friend about the future spouse. Rather do this than say something which is inaccurate.
Not to make a big deal out of it, but it may not be a bad idea to actually rehearse your speech. While weddings don’t really ban people from pulling out a piece of paper to deliver your speech, it seems more natural when you can say things without reading aids. If you want to pull this off and come off as an excellent speech person, stand in front of a mirror and start practising.
Don’t make it look like you have rehearsed. Try to make it a natural expression but practice just enough to avoid fumbling your words. Another item to remember is to discuss with the wedding planner as to what is your cue to deliver the speech. It is also an excellent idea to have a chat with others who have been asked to speak at the wedding to ensure that you don’t overlap with what they are saying.