The first thing you want for your kids is to see them happy at every moment. Although growing days are associated with some amount of ups and downs, you can still put in your efforts to ensure that you raise a happy child. One of the major benefits of raising happy smiling children is that such children tend to have a more positive outlook towards life and spread happiness wherever they go. After all, happiness is contagious too!
Happy Homes, Happy Children
Each child has his own temperament that is evident since his infancy. These are generally influenced by their genes. However, according to Bob Murray, the author of Raising an Optimistic Child, genes can be toned down and you can even switch some bad mood swings by providing positive and happy environment to the children at home.
So, How Can You Bring Up A Happy Child?
Here are a few tips that have directly come out from some experienced mothers and child psychology experts.
Make Him Feel Connected
Healthy development of emotions in a child is very important and this can be achieved by promoting emotional well-being, developing a bond of love and affection between the child and the other family members, neighbours, friends, daycare providers and pets.
According to Dr. Hallowell, offering lots of unconditional love and spending quality time with the children during their growing up years ensures that the kids remain connected to you all through their lives. Make sure that your love is reached to your children and they understand how you feel about them. To make them feel connected you should hold them, eat with them, laugh with them, snuggle and sleep with them, read to them aloud and respond with a lot of care and empathy when they are crying.
Do Not Put in Efforts to Make Him Happy
The whole process of raising a child should be natural and easy-going. This means that if your child does not behave properly, you should scold him or point out his mistake even though it means that he might cry or sulk for a while. Making him understand and accept his mistake is also a part of raising a positive minded child. Granting his, every wish can give him short-term happiness, but is sure to prove problematic in the end.
According to Bonnie Harris the author of When your kids push buttons and founder of Peterborough, New Hampshire’s Core Parenting consultancy parents must teach children to handle negative emotions like anger, frustration, sadness or depression.
Happy Parents Raise Happy Kids
Children have a tendency to absorb and grasp from their parents. If you have mood swings, have a habit to throw tantrums, then the children will too pick up this habit and you will have kids with violent temperament and restless minds. A theory suggests that parents who are happy are more likely to have happy kids and vice-versa. So, be relaxed, happy and positive and your children will but naturally grasp all these attributes from you.
Praise and Encourage
Whenever your child has done something worth appreciating never, fail to praise him. Let him know that you are proud of his achievement, however small it may be. Similarly, even if he fails in a particular effort, you should encourage him to keep on trying and guide him so that he feels confident enough to pursue the task despite failing for the first or even the second time.
Provide More Opportunities
Praise your children more with actions rather than words. For example, if your child is good at painting, you should certainly appreciate his work, but more than that, you must enroll him in a painting class or make him participate in different art competitions. This will help him to understand his capability and boost his self-esteem. If he is lacking in certain aspects, help him polish up his skills by encouraging him at every step.
Make him Learn the Value of Being Grateful
Most of the kids get the right things at the right time and take everything in life for granted. It is the responsibility of the parents to teach them to behave politely with everyone-old and young and also to be grateful for the help they take from their siblings, relatives, friends, neighbours and even parents.
Lots of unconditional love and disciplined approach ensure that the children are raised not only as happy kids, but also as individuals who can love, appreciate and cooperate with others and distribute the same quality among their family and group of friends.